As wives and mothers, we have many duties. Our days can get overwhelmed with all the “things” we have to do. One such duty that often slips between the cracks is our job to pray for our husbands. We have the opportunity to intercede for them and to invite the Holy Spirit to change their lives. Obviously, our husbands are still free to make their own choices.
Our prayers can’t control them, but they can definitely help them.
To be honest, until the last couple years I never saw the point in praying for things. I still did, but I guess I didn’t really believe in the power of prayer. I came across a few books on praying (linked here) and decided to implement them into my daily routine. I would pray for my husband, my kids, or whatever was on my heart. It was crazy to see God move.
I don’t always spend a lot of time praying for my husband every day. Some days it is a quick 5 minutes and other days it will be 30 minutes to an hour.
Prayer is like working out, to build a routine you have to do it even when you don’t feel like it.
You show up and make the effort and work as hard as you can that day. Eventually, it becomes easier, you see results, and you start feeling like you need it.
Just like working out however, sometimes it is hard to keep at it without a plan. If you just walk into the gym not knowing what muscle you are going to work that day, you often don’t get much done. My prayer life is like that, so I have noticed when I follow guides or lists, it becomes much easier.
10 ways to pray for your husband
Below are 10 ways to pray for your husband. It’s really just a 10 day prayer “guide.” Obviously your prayers are not limited to this, but try taking a few minutes every day to pray for your husband in these areas and see what happens. When you’re done with this list, go through it again or make up your own list and keep praying.
DAY 1: His Identity
First and foremost, we want our husband’s identity to be in Christ. If he already has a relationship with Jesus, pray that he will continue to draw near to God. If he does not believe in Jesus or has fallen away, pray that he would recognize his need for God.
DAY 2: His Integrity
We all want our husbands to be men of integrity. Integrity is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. We must pray for our husbands to be honest even when it’s hard, and to live a life that leads to a reputation of integrity. This is something fathers often pass down to their children.
The righteous man walks in his integrity; His children are blessed after him.Proverbs 20:7
DAY 3: His Choices
As I said before, we can’t control our husbands. It is something I have to remind myself every day. They will never be perfect, and they will never make all the same choices that we would. However, we don’t want our husbands to be more like us, we want them to be more like God. We must pray that our husbands will take all his decisions to God, and that his choices will be the result of our Wonderful Counselor.
DAY 4: His Attitude
Attitude does not just mean the kind of attitude you associate with a teenager. By attitude I mean his daily outlook on life. Is he excited about life? Is he disappointed? Is he always complaining about something? Our husband’s attitude is something that can greatly affect our home life. Pray that his attitude would always be in line with what God’s Word says. That the hope he finds in Jesus would pour out of him and into his every day outlook on life.
DAY 5: His Temptation
Marriage is one thing that the enemy tries very hard to destroy. It is not a matter of if our husbands will be tempted, but when. Our husbands can be tempted by a number of things such as alcohol, lust, gambling, lying etc. We must pray that when those temptations arise that our husbands will have the strength to say no and to walk away.
DAY 6: His Fatherhood
I get so much joy out of watching my husband be a father to our little boys. Fatherhood can come to naturally to some men and to others it is a strained effort every day. Wherever your husband falls of the spectrum, that’s okay! Often that has to do with their upbringing and their relationship with their own father, which is something they had no control over. What they do have control over is their own relationship with their children. We have to cover our husband’s role as a father in prayer because it is such an important role they play in our children’s lives. They are an earthly example of our Heavenly Father.
DAY 7: His Affection
Men often see sex and affection as the same thing. This is true in part, but there is a whole range of other kinds of physical and emotional affection women need. If affection does not come easily to your husband, pray for him. Pray that he would desire it. Even if you are not a “physical touch” person, you need physical affection from your spouse. Beyond praying, try initiating at least one 10 second kiss every day and see how your hearts change toward one another.
Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.1 Corinthians 7:3
DAY 8: His Safety/Health
This is one area that I’m sure you probably pray for daily! If you don’t, then you definitely should. Pray for your husband’s safety every day. Pray that God will keep his body strong and healthy. Sometimes when life is going well we forget to pray for these simple things and we take them for granted. That’s when we must pray preemptively.
DAY 9: His Job
First, pray that your husband is in the job that God wants him in. Pray that he glorifies God through that job every day. Pray that in whatever career he has he is not only doing a job but fulfilling God’s purpose for him.
DAY 10: His Wife
Last, but certainly not least. Often the number one thing we need to pray about for our husbands is ourselves. Pray that God would make us better wives for our husbands. That He would change our hearts and our attitudes towards our husbands.
If your marriage is in trouble or your husband is going down a bad path, start by asking God what you can do to change it.
There are so many more things we can pray for our husbands about, but this is a good starting point. Take one point a day and pray over it. Ask yourself and God if there is anything specific in each area of your husband’s life that he needs prayer for.
Let me know below how your 10 days of praying for your husband went and put it in the comments below if you saw any miracles happen!
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